Why don’t kids listen ??

Hi people!!

Here I am with my first attempt to help you all (if I can ) with the greatest challenge that we as parents face today-“ BACHCHE SUNTE HI NAHI “ !!

Be it any age group.. any matter— they just won’t listen to us. And on top of it- cherry on the cake.. they would argue back and answer you back- jab dekho gussa karte rehte ho.. !! Heartbreak right !! I can completely, totally understand. 

So what to do ??  Here are 5 ways to make your kids listen to you:

1. Listening—As parents we need to listen and listen from heart. Hear out all that they feel, they think, without giving your special comments, without judging. Simply hear out. And try to be in their shoes. We need to get down to their level and think like them to understand them. Without that there can’t be any discussions but only arguments. 
2. Team Work—We need to work with them as a team. When there are awards you both win but when there’s failure you both fail. A very renowned psychologist gave the expression- TUM — MAIN— HUM. Hear out without interruption that’s TUM, then speak your mind without letting them interrupt that’s MAIN and then as a team we can settle down somewhere in between maybe, solving the problem as HUM. 
3. Age Old Experience—Parents are also human beings, can be wrong at times and parenting is a never ending process. Goes on and on. And for kids they have to give a chance to their parents. They are 30 or 40 years old must be knowing something right.. so listening to some of their experiences might just help. 
4. Peer Pressure—Kids these days not only feel pressure from parents to succeed in academics in sports and co- curricular, but also there is an ever rising peer pressure which only they go through, we can only begin to imagine. Ours was a very simple time, but today kids are not only very smart but also very ambitious and competitive. They want to take decisions themselves. And I think at times we should let them. Even if they go wrong at least they’ll learn. Kids who take decisions themselves grow up to be very confident in life. Also they don’t want to learn from your experiences where you failed. They want to fall themselves and get hurt and then learn. 
5. Guiding Light—In all this we have to be the guiding light. We need to show them the way, pave the way but they have to walk themselves, face problems themselves, solve them themselves. 

So parents let loose a little. “ Woh kya kehte hain — take a chill pill “ . We need to stop ruling them and actually be friends no best friends, so that they trust you and come to you for anything n everything.

So people go and build that friendship with your kids and see the wonders..