5 ways to solve relationship issues
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It was the day that Siya had been waiting for past 6 months. These 6 months were nothing less than a Bollywood masala movie. It had all the essentials-
The love at first sight.... the decision of getting married,...... fighting with parents,... the family clashes as two different communities were coming together,... the grand wedding,... the song and dance saga,.... the elaborate and lavish punjabi rituals..... God !!it had all . Other than being excited and extremely happy for getting married to the love of her life Rahul, Siya was also nervous and a little scared. Managing a prestigious job along with new responsibilities was giving her the jitters. All Siya wanted was to be happy, for everything to go well and for life to be that perfect fairy tale with happily ever after.
Little did Siya know that all her dreams would fall flat in just two months. She tried to talk to her friends but nothing worked out. Siya couldn’t understand how to deal with this. One moment they are happily talking and discussing and the next moment both are shouting. The endless fights were taking toll on Siya’s Career as well as her health.
What went wrong in Siya’s case is that when two people start living together they have to give a chance to “us” . The only thing heard between couples is I and Me and My. None of them wants to change anything but still wonder why things are not working out.
Here are 5 ways to solve relationship problems.
It was the day that Siya had been waiting for past 6 months. These 6 months were nothing less than a Bollywood masala movie. It had all the essentials-
The love at first sight.... the decision of getting married,...... fighting with parents,... the family clashes as two different communities were coming together,... the grand wedding,... the song and dance saga,.... the elaborate and lavish punjabi rituals..... God !!it had all . Other than being excited and extremely happy for getting married to the love of her life Rahul, Siya was also nervous and a little scared. Managing a prestigious job along with new responsibilities was giving her the jitters. All Siya wanted was to be happy, for everything to go well and for life to be that perfect fairy tale with happily ever after.
Little did Siya know that all her dreams would fall flat in just two months. She tried to talk to her friends but nothing worked out. Siya couldn’t understand how to deal with this. One moment they are happily talking and discussing and the next moment both are shouting. The endless fights were taking toll on Siya’s Career as well as her health.
What went wrong in Siya’s case is that when two people start living together they have to give a chance to “us” . The only thing heard between couples is I and Me and My. None of them wants to change anything but still wonder why things are not working out.
Here are 5 ways to solve relationship problems.
- Talking— you need to make space for us. You both need to talk and talk and talk about anything and everything. Make time for each other. Know each other thoroughly. Only then you know each other’s likes and dislikes.
- Be calm and patient— there’s a little argument and two people start discussing, sticking to their own points, shouting to stress on how correct they are and ultimately giving way to a big fight. To avoid these situations one person needs to be patient and a little quiet for some time. When that wave of anger passes and your partner has retired then make your point clear. This way a fight never happens when only one person is shouting and other is quite. This would not make you a loser or small. Don’t let your ego come in between. My grandma used to say “ ek chup te sau sukh “ which means Silence saves you from lots of troubles. Your partner would love you even more because you listened. And BINGO you actually avoided a fight!!
- Acceptance— when you love a person you love them for what they are. Every person has positives and negatives . No one is perfect. You have to love that person’s flaws as well. So rather than cribbing , accept the flaws and stop trying to change them. Instead spend your energy in making things better.
- A change— another culprit that I’ve seen very often in relationships is about why should I change? If you really love a person then making changes in yourself for that ONE should not be such a great issue. You go ahead and make one change, you are sure to see lot of changes on the other side. Whatever you do gets noticed you show or not. It’s a two way process. You give love and get love, you give respect n you get respect.
- Start new rituals— do small small things for your partner to get that smile.. it goes a long way. I know sounds a little cheesy but do follow. Start your day with a good morning kiss. Once a day say I LOVE YOU.. once a day hug each other . Hug n sleep and end your day with a good night kiss.
So guys next time you find yourself in Siya’s shoes remember these points and get the urge to love..
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